In our last post we discussed our love of the hyper competitive rec league athlete. He’s great; he gets people fired up, he picks up your team when you're down and he organizes everything. He can also tend to be the loudest and sometimes most troublesome one on the field or court. To say he can get a tad emotional during the game is like saying most men get a tad emotional when they watch the closing scene in Rudy when he sacks the quarterback at the end of the game (excuse me I need to get a tissue). If you’re going to be the emotional firecracker on your squad, there are right ways and wrong ways to go about being THAT guy. Here are some guidelines:
Don’t yell at your teammates: Firstly they spent the same amount of money to play in the same league as you, no one comes to a game to get yelled it. It’s one thing to get on them about hustling (laziness should never be tolerated), but don’t yell at them about what they did wrong, they probably already know what they did wrong and don’t need someone who’s at the same skill level (assuming) giving them shit about it. If you’re going to yell at them about a bad play, you better be the known leader and best player on the team
Don’t fight with the other team: Don’t be the guy that deliberately starts shit with opposing players. However it is fully acceptable to back up your teammate if someone you’re playing against starts up with him. Always have your teammate's back, unless he’s the guy starting shit, in which case tell him to calm the fuck down….if he gets punched it’s his own fault #sorrynotsorry.
Don’t fight or argue with the refs: You can plead your case if they’re making bad calls, but you gotta be nice about it. You’re not Kobe Bryant and you’re not going to get favourable calls because you’re one of the better players on the court. Rec league refs or umps don’t get paid enough to listen to your crap, and it’s probably fun for them to throw you out of the game if it comes to that. If you’re going to point out something that’s happening to your team that's unfavorable, do it in a nice way, “can you watch out for this” should be enough to get them to pay attention to their poor officiating.
As you can see, the guidelines pertain exclusively to fighting and arguing. This is a trait often associated with the most hyper competitive person on the team. Emotions on the court or field often make way for confrontation when things go wrong. It’s OK to care and to feel that it’s more than just a game, but sometimes it’s important to remember it is just a game. No one needs to explain to their boss why their black eye is the result of a punch they took to the face from a second baseman they argued with because they happened to be in your base path when you thought they shouldn’t have been.
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